The Tender Bar

by J. R. Moehringer

First published 2021

J.R. Moehringer grows up listening to his father's voice on the radio. His father, a New York City disc jockey, disappeared before J.R. could speak. The boy sits on his stoop, ear pressed to the radio, trying to decode masculinity from that distant voice. His mother provides love and stability, but J.R. hungers for something more. When The Voice vanishes from the airwaves, eight-year-old J.R. discovers the corner bar. There he meets Uncle Charlie, who looks like Humphrey Bogart, Colt with his Yogi Bear voice, and Joey D the gentle fighter. These men adopt J.R. as their project. They take him to beaches and ballgames, teaching him their version of manhood through committee parenting. As J.R. grows older, the bar becomes his refuge during college struggles and career disappointments. He returns again and again, seeking comfort from rejection and heartbreak. The bar offers sanctuary but also temptation, pulling him away from the wider world his mother wants him to conquer.

Genres: family, 20th-century, american, coming-of-age, autobiography, biography-memoir, 21st-century, family-drama

Vibes: emotional, intimate, thought-provoking

Tropes: found-family, unreliable-narrator

Setting: New York City

Period: 20th-century, 21st-century

432 pages · Paperback · Grand Central Publishing

Content warnings: alcohol-abuse, substance-abuse

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